There are days when we think our lives completely suck and days when we think that nothing seems to be going our way.
What I'm about to tell you has probably already been assured to you some 200 times but I'm hoping this affects you in a greater manner.
We all complain and whine and cry and kick and scream about things that go wrong in our lives. We become butchers when it comes to our own happiness. We become biased and ignore the amount of shit that others go through, thinking ours is the greatest of them all. We all like to believe that we're so important that all the pain there is in the world has been imparted into us. As if the entire universe conspires against our happiness. We do, do we not?
Well, I'm here to tell you other wise. Up until a phone conversation with a friend today, I believed that I'd been through more shit than anybody out there has. That my problems are the biggest ones to have ever existed. But well, that's faux on so many levels. It wasn't anything he said or did, it was just a sudden realisation I got after I put the receiver down.
I realised that I was too blinded by my own perspective and opinion of things. To me, the world revolved around me. Like a Radhika-centric view, as we shall call it. But that's no how things work.
All of us, like I said, are butchers when it comes to our own happiness. Masochists, in a way, I guess.
Anyhow, let's get down to it. The world does not revolve around you. And the problems you face today are not as huge as you may think they are. Sure, you're allowed to cry or whine every once in a while. We all are. But what I'm really here to tell you is, you can't compare your life with that of others and overlook the dark part of their lives and call them perfect. That's not how it works. I think everybody goes through shit, in different ways, sure. Some go through economic problems while others go through a heart break; some have an eating disorder while others are getting divorced. You may think that what you're going through is bigger than all of us but it's not. It's only as big as you make it in your head. At the end of the day, everybody has enough problems already and if we all came down to comparing ours, it would lead to a nuclear war.
You may have every reason to complain, to break down, to feel lonely, to feel miserable, to cry or to scream out loud for help and I am in no denial of it. But don't we all? Even the person who you think has it all figured out has issues that you know nothing of; antidepressants whose trace you'll never find; and scars you'll never see.
So stop. Whatever it is that you're doing. Whatever it is that makes you think everyone but you has got it all figured out. Because believe you me, we're all a little twisted in the head and we've all got monsters stashed somewhere in our closet.
Everytime you think things can't get worse, consider this: you're alive. How is that not a good enough reason to smile?
What I'm about to tell you has probably already been assured to you some 200 times but I'm hoping this affects you in a greater manner.
We all complain and whine and cry and kick and scream about things that go wrong in our lives. We become butchers when it comes to our own happiness. We become biased and ignore the amount of shit that others go through, thinking ours is the greatest of them all. We all like to believe that we're so important that all the pain there is in the world has been imparted into us. As if the entire universe conspires against our happiness. We do, do we not?
Well, I'm here to tell you other wise. Up until a phone conversation with a friend today, I believed that I'd been through more shit than anybody out there has. That my problems are the biggest ones to have ever existed. But well, that's faux on so many levels. It wasn't anything he said or did, it was just a sudden realisation I got after I put the receiver down.
I realised that I was too blinded by my own perspective and opinion of things. To me, the world revolved around me. Like a Radhika-centric view, as we shall call it. But that's no how things work.
All of us, like I said, are butchers when it comes to our own happiness. Masochists, in a way, I guess.
Anyhow, let's get down to it. The world does not revolve around you. And the problems you face today are not as huge as you may think they are. Sure, you're allowed to cry or whine every once in a while. We all are. But what I'm really here to tell you is, you can't compare your life with that of others and overlook the dark part of their lives and call them perfect. That's not how it works. I think everybody goes through shit, in different ways, sure. Some go through economic problems while others go through a heart break; some have an eating disorder while others are getting divorced. You may think that what you're going through is bigger than all of us but it's not. It's only as big as you make it in your head. At the end of the day, everybody has enough problems already and if we all came down to comparing ours, it would lead to a nuclear war.
You may have every reason to complain, to break down, to feel lonely, to feel miserable, to cry or to scream out loud for help and I am in no denial of it. But don't we all? Even the person who you think has it all figured out has issues that you know nothing of; antidepressants whose trace you'll never find; and scars you'll never see.
So stop. Whatever it is that you're doing. Whatever it is that makes you think everyone but you has got it all figured out. Because believe you me, we're all a little twisted in the head and we've all got monsters stashed somewhere in our closet.
Everytime you think things can't get worse, consider this: you're alive. How is that not a good enough reason to smile?
