For granted

Look around you. What do you see? The same old people? Things? Now close your eyes. Say, I were to take everything in your room, away from you. Everything in your life, away from you and replace it with perhaps, some new stuff. How do you feel about that? Good, eh? 

No, not really. 
Around you are a bunch of familiar things that you take for granted, each day. Around you are the people, that you take for granted, every now and then. Why do you do it? Because they've always been there? Or perhaps, because a part of you believes that they will always be there? Well, okay. I guess I'm gonna stop beating around the bushes and get to the point. 
If you're sitting in your room, all by yourself thinking no one cares about you, that no one would even notice your absence, that you're, as I may quote, "useless". Then I have news for you. You're not alone. It may seem that way. But it's not. Take, for example: your parents. Now, I dont mean to go all lyrical on you but honestly, haven't they always been there? Despite your peurile behaviour and your rage? So do it for them. Be a better man, for them. Because I don't know about others in your life, but I do know that your absence would kill your parents. Don't take them for granted. 
Don't take anyone for granted. They may pretend to be okay with it. But they're not. No one is, come to think of it. 
Because your life wouldn't be the same, if I were to take away a few things from it. 

No One

Due to some of my recent experiences, I'm forced to be a hypocrite now.
Earlier, I used to live in this bubble of mine where everyone was my friend and everyone wanted what was best for me. There were rainbows, unicorns and happy endings. I used to believe that people don't let go and everyone stays with you forever. There was nothing black for me. Only white and pink. No monsters. Only this handsome prince charming.

Gee, little did I know that the bubble of mine was going to be bursted. That those scary monsters under my bed really did exist. That it's going to take more than some golden sword to scare them away. Little did I know, that it's going to take courage, strength and power. That not everyone is your friend. That you're going to fall out of love as many times as you fall in love. That nothing in this god forsaken world is permanent. 

Strangers were made

Haven't we all lost the 'supposed' love of our lives, our best friends, our friends or maybe pets? We all have been through it over and over again in the past few years. We have lost people who we thought will stay with us forever. We are all familiar with the aftermath of a loss. Yet, each time someone special walks into our life, our hearts light up with hope and we start to wonder about how it'd be like to have that person with us 20 years down the row. Each time, even after being betrayed by many and broken by few, we continue to hope. Friends often turn into strangers and later, into enemies. We all hate the person that we once irrevocably loved. Been there, done that, eh? "Some say that time changes best friendsinto strangers" I guess it's because all of us tend to take things for granted. Take people for granted. The very fact that we assume that someone would stay in out lives for a long time, indicates that. A small fight turns into a big one and the big fight finally turns out to  be the turning point. Just like that, strangers are made.. 

To bad parenting

Honestly, I don't understand when parents or teachers say “Stay away from that kid. He can be a bad influence on you”. Seriously? Is your kid so messed up and confused that he doesn't have a personality of his own? That he can be ‘influenced’ by any random friend of his, that easily? If so, then it isn't ‘the bad kid’s’ upbringing that you should question. It is yours.

People do drugs. Yes, they do. And they smoke. And they drink. And they steal. But does that mean that you're kid is going to be influenced by all of it and start doing it? If so, then mam, kindly lock your precious child in a cupboard for the rest of his life. But just know, the more you protect him, the more complex character you are creating. Let your child make decisions on his own. I’m sure he isn't in kindergarten anymore.  I’m sure he can decide who he wants to be with or talk to. Because he’s going to make mistakes with or without you. Because he will stumble and fall WITH or WITHOUT you. And the only thing that you can do, the only thing I suggest you do, is be there for him when he does.

Oh and, just stop blaming ‘the bad kid’ for it. Your kid wouldn't have done it if he didn't want to. No one pushed anything down his throat.

Ciao~

Now is the right time

I remember thinking about the future and the past and everything except for the present. I remember thinking about how beautiful yesterday was and how charming tomorrow can be. Though it's good to dream about what tomorrow may bring and its great to remember the memories of the past. Somewhere, somehow, I think that by doing that we are compromising on today. On what the following day has in store for us. All of us, we're so scared of the future and what's gonna happen when we open our eyes tomorrow. IF we open our eyes tomorrow.
Now, I'm not asking you all to not reminisce your archaeological history. I'm just asking you all to not reside there. To not be so stuck that the past is all you have left. And I am definitely not consoling you on how good tomorrow will be. Just, that you should stop worrying about it. Because unlike the past, the future is in your hands. The future is going to be shaped the way you want it to be. It lies on what you do today. If only you would stop vexing so much, you'd be able to discover the potential that you have.

So concentrate on everything that's happening, right now and not be lost by the beauty of yesterday or the perplexity of tomorrow. 

Back in Time

Have you ever wanted to go back in time? When all you wanted to do was to erase or redo that one thing? Or in my case, certain things. We all have a past. While some people’s past is painful, other’s is dark. Some people have a humiliating past while other’s have a fearful one. But we all come with baggage. It’s like they say “People have scars in all sorts of unexpected places, like secret road maps of their personal histories.” So we've all been there.

Despite of what you want and what you need, one thing that is certain is you can’t go back in time. You can’t undo or redo things. What’s done is done. What’s been said has been said. What’s lost is lost. I don’t know if you lost love or if you were harassed. Now that it has been done, you can’t take it back. The only thing you can actually do is mend it. Mend your broken heart; mend your low self esteem, whatever. Just stop wasting your time thinking about what you could’ve done or what you should’ve. Stop picturing the scene in your head for the 100^th time. Save yourself the time, energy and tears. Because, take it from someone who has been there. If it was meant to happen, it would've  I’m sorry to break into your dream world but move on from whatever it is that you’re holding on to. Don’t think about how it would have been like had that one little thing didn't happen. ‘Cause it did. Living in a fantasy world thinking about going back and taking it back is barely going to help. So stop. 

Where's the humanity?

The more our society prospers economically and socially, the more animal like we’re becoming. Actually no, animal like is a wrong statement. Animals would never do as devastating things as us. Like Stephen King once said “They're animals, all right. But why are you so god dam sure that makes us human beings?” Somewhere in this materially inclined world, we’re losing our humanity. We are becoming more and more reckless. Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. Yes, the inhumane and filthy things happening all over the globe. You, my friend have experienced it in your life as well. Have you ever stopped to help an unknown person? Now, some of you might say yes. But for most, the answer is obvious.

What?

We’re all too busy in our lives, trying to earn money, trying to look out for our own selves and we tend to forget about the things that really matter. We’re so caught up in our own world that we barely have time for others. We’re so self absorbed that sometimes, while we’re fulfilling our own needs, we hurt others. Not that we do it intentionally, no. We’re so straight headed that we barely even consider the possibility of ever being wrong. And even when we do accept that we’re wrong, we quickly justify our actions and console ourselves by listing the other person’s faults.

Why?

Now, whatever I’m writing in this article is not something you haven’t heard it before. You have. Yet you fail to make amends. Don’t we all know that the sole reason for our obnoxious behavior is the need to fulfill our ego? The need to be right. Always.

How to change?

We need to stop being so egoistic and accept the fact that no matter how great and sensible and mature we are, we CAN be wrong. We might not intend to cause damage and hurt people but we CAN do it unintentionally. And what we need is too stop being so narcissistic. It’s like they say “Ego has a voracious appetite, the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets.” 

Believe in what you see, not hear.

Why be an atheist, they ask. To which I reply, why not.

Why believe in a superficial force which is said to be hiding in the clouds? Do we not have real things to believe in?

To be honest, I don't think that 80% of the people who claim to be theists are so. I think that they're just people who just need things. Who think that 'praying' to god will help them achieve their goals. Well, believe you me. It isn't. They're people who are too lazy to find an ultimate truth about man's existence. They're people who just need someone to blame and when they find no one, they blame the superior source. They're people who think that it's better to believe in something rather than believing in nothing. After All, that might upset 'god' i.e if he even exists. Now I don't mean to offend any of you. For, I know that many of you pretend to believe in god.

But seriously, WHY do we need to depend on some ultimate source to show us our path? WHY can't we make our own destiny?

Is it okay for 'god' to overlook the fact that 5 year old children are being raped? That we're practically scared to move out of our house thinking we may never return? That people are being murdered for money? Where in bible is that declared as fine? Did 'god' ask them be pure evil no reason whatsoever? Um..I don't think so.

Its we who do things. We're not puppets of god, if he even exists. Why be an atheist they ask. To which I reply, why be a theist.

Façades

For those of you who don't know what the word actually means, here: 'a dressing to cover up something unpleasant'. But that's just its literal meaning. Coming onto practicality, its something we all possess, something we all use. Yes, you too. 

All our lives we mold ourselves into something that people want us to be. We shape our appearances, our accents, our personality, everything. It isn't something we like doing, right? But we do it anyway. Why? Because we wanbecause of these stereotypes that people spend half their lifetime trying to be someone they're not. And later, being judged for it. Its not a fair world, whether you're rich or poor, black or white, thin or fat, you WILL be judged. And in my opinion, its better to be judged for who you are than to be judged for someone you're pretending to be. So go ahead, take that façade of yours off because its not gonna earn you many points. Be who you are because at the end of the day, who you are IS who you wanna be. You're perfect. All of you.t to be liked. Because we've all been told that if we act in a particular way, we can get people to like us. We think that society is the root cause for it but aren't we the ones comprising the 'society'? We're all judgmental. We all judge people on the basis of something or the other. More often than ever we judge people without even knowing their story. Without knowing what caused them to be the way that they are. 

Fat people splurge money on trying to get thin, somehow anyhow. They diet, they gym, they get weird surgeries done in order to look attractive. People born with a dark complexion try on every method that they can to have a fair complexion. Lemme ask you this, who said that only thin and fair people are attractive? That people who don't look like Victoria Secret's angels and Calvin Klien's models are going to be anathemised? Its because of these stereotypes that people spend half their lifetime trying to be someone they're not. And later, being judged for it. Its not a fair world, whether you're rich or poor, black or white, thin or fat, you WILL be judged. And in my opinion, its better to be judged for who you are than to be judged for someone you're pretending to be. So go ahead, take that façade of yours off because its not gonna earn you many points. Be who you are because at the end of the day, who you are IS who you wanna be. You're perfect. All of you.